I was working on a post about relationships that begin with infidelity the other day when I found myself at a loss. Unless I’m sharing my personal story, I try to write from as much as a gender-neutral perspective as possible. I typed the phrase, “Mistress or …” waiting for the masculine version of theContinue reading “How the Language We Use Reveals Our Assumptions”
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Vengeance
I read the report of the woman who broadcast a cheater’s picture on Facebook with equal parts understanding, shame and revulsion. When I first decided to go public with my story, I wanted to use his name and his image. I rationalized it by the fact that his arrest records and mugshot are public documentsContinue reading “Vengeance”
Forgiveness 101
Forgiveness. That word is often tossed about in hushed and almost reverent tones. It is the holy grail of one betrayed. Have you forgiven yet? We feel pushed to reach that nirvana, yet we are unsure how to navigate the labyrinthine path that leads us there. Nor are we even sure that we would recognizeContinue reading “Forgiveness 101”
Learning to Trust Myself
The hardest part of learning to trust after betrayal has been learning to trust myself. My fiance and his cousin, both huge Ravens fans, were lucky enough to score tickets to the Super Bowl. In New Orleans. During Mardi Gras. Talk about the ultimate boy’s weekend! Brock came back into town Monday night butContinue reading “Learning to Trust Myself”