Five Strategies to Cope With a Lack of Motivation During Divorce

At first, it was a fight for survival that kept me going. That was soon replaced with a desire for justice. Then, some excitement for new possibilities provided a slight trickle of motivation to keep going. Eventually, all of that ran out. The well of inspiration to keep slogging through the debris of divorce dried … Continue reading Five Strategies to Cope With a Lack of Motivation During Divorce

The Life You Had is Gone

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"The life you had is gone." I would tell myself as a lament and in an attempt to force acceptance. "You now have the opportunity to create a new life." I would continue, in a hope that optimism also operated on the "fake it until you make it" principle. "You can now build a life … Continue reading The Life You Had is Gone

I’ve Been There

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Three Reasons NOT to Seek Closure

I was good at coming up with excuses. I must send him another email (even though he didn't respond to the first two) so that he knows the impact of what he's done and it might prompt him to apologize. I have to contact the police about his bigamy because it is a crime and … Continue reading Three Reasons NOT to Seek Closure

8 Years Ago Today

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There's something about the tangible signs of the passage of time that makes it all the more real. I had a precious visit with my dear friend and her daughter last Sunday. This was the friend who took me in during that awful year between the tsunami and the legal cessation of the marriage. And … Continue reading 8 Years Ago Today