Changing the Reflection in the Mirror

On the day after I was left, I looked in the mirror. I saw a woman who had been discarded. Thoughtlessly thrown away like some worn-out or unfashionable sneakers. Good enough to be walked on, but no longer deemed worthy of the necessary closet space. Some days when I looked in the mirror, I saw … Continue reading Changing the Reflection in the Mirror

Marriage is Not a Test

Marriage is not a test. I lived. I loved. I lost. But I didn't fail. Society makes assumptions about those who are divorced. Maybe we lack the fortitude to persist through difficulties. Perhaps we possess some great fatal flaw that makes us unable to sustain matrimony. Or, possibility we are flighty, given to jump in … Continue reading Marriage is Not a Test

Ten Metaphors for Divorce

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Which metaphor best describes your divorce?   1 - The Too-Small House It seems perfect. The spaces seem custom-built to accommodate your needs and it immediately feels like a home. Over time, as the family grows and the demands on the home increase, those walls that once felt comforting begin to feel like a prison. … Continue reading Ten Metaphors for Divorce

The (Unspoken) Truth About Marriage

When asked about the state of their union, people often feel like they have to defer to one of two responses: "It's all good," or, "It's over." Yet the reality is that most marriages spend much of their time between these two extremes. Where some things are good, some areas are taut with tension and … Continue reading The (Unspoken) Truth About Marriage

8 Things That Cannot Wait Until Tomorrow

I used to promise myself that I would have fun as soon as the weekend arrived. And then, I would push it off until the summer. I even let it get to the point where I resigned myself to more work and little play until retirement. The timing was never quite right to let up … Continue reading 8 Things That Cannot Wait Until Tomorrow