The following are common strategies that we use to try to change others that often backfire.
“I am so frustrated at work right now,” a woman vents to her husband. “My team just doesn’t pay attention to deadlines and it keeps impacting my work.” “Why don’t you set up a shared calendar with your team to coordinate deadlines?” the husband suggests, as it seems like an easy and obvious fix toContinue reading “Why We Feel the Need to Fix Things”
I don’t like to disappoint people. I work to not be a bother to others and I like to be liked. On the surface, these might seem to be good qualities in a wife. I am conscientious and attentive and often put the needs of others above my own. But there’s a dark side toContinue reading “A Tough Pill For a People-Pleaser to Swallow”
We don’t come with emotion-handling software already installed. As young children, we were pure, unrestrained emotion. Any disappointment resulted in a red and tear-stained face and joy over the smallest delight would result in spontaneous and unselfconscious giggles. And then, over the years, we received guidance on how to handle our emotions. Some of usContinue reading “A Guidebook to Handling Your Emotions”