The Pitch-Black Room
Heartbreak is a pitch-black room. At first, you’re disoriented. Confused. How did the familiar world become replaced by this sarcophagus of grief? There are no windows. No doors. Only darkness. […]
I Was Married to a Con Man
I thought he loved me. It turned out that he was more con man than confidant. If my husband had been Pinocchio, his nose would have been a giant redwood. […]
An Open Letter to Those Who Have Been Ghosted by a Partner
I see you. I know that right now you’re feeling insignificant and discarded. I see you standing there in utter shock, struggling to process how everything changed in an instant. […]
Understanding Triggers
Want more ideas and support on dealing with triggers? Facing Avoidance We avoid because we do not want to suffer. Yet suffering then becomes the background noise of […]
How Could They Move On So Quickly?
My ex-husband certainly wasted no time. He didn’t even bother filing for divorce before he married his second (I’m assuming here; there could have been others) wife. Among all of […]
Separation Anxiety: Understanding Why Rejection Hurts
Rejection is among the most painful of human experiences. Why does rejection hurt so much and what can we do to lessen its impact?
Walking the Narrow Line Between Seeking to Understand and Making Excuses
The Netflix series Mindhunters takes a fascinating look at the early days of the FBI’s research into profiling serial killers. At that time, the overall viewpoint of the bureau was […]
Finding Your Strength Through Your Victim Impact Statement
At the gym yesterday, there was a man near me who was using his headset to have a phone conversation. Hearing the one-sided discussion about inane business matters made me […]
The End of a Relationship: The Leavers and The Left
This piece, about what happens to the people that leave relationships abruptly and/or with deception, caused quite a stir on Facebook recently. The comments fell into two camps: “Thank you for […]
I Needed Him to Face the Consequences, Yet I Was the One Who Paid
I entered the divorce process like a dizzy and blindfolded toddler attempting to swing at a candy-laden piñata. I had a singular focus, yet unable to see, I fumbled through it […]
What Is Your “I’m Not Enough” Telling You?
“Why wasn’t I enough for him?” I posed this question to my journal soon after discovering that my then-husband had obtained a new wife. “What does she have that […]
The Power of “Me Too”
I recently responded to a woman over at Divorce Force. She had just discovered that for 30 of the 34 years she spent with her husband, he had another family. […]
Ghost Busters: Breaking Through the Pain of Abandonment
If the top charts on iTunes are any indication, I’m not alone in my new obsession with the broadcast, Missing Richard Simmons. If you had told me that I would […]
Why “How Could You Do This to Me?” Is the Wrong Question to Ask
I was a playlist on repeat. “How could he do this to me?” I wailed to my dad as he made sure I was restrained by the seatbelt before racing […]