Why “Get Over It” is Misdirected We Wish We Could When we’ve been betrayed, we want nothing more than for the pain to go away. We try to bargain with it, under the desperate illusion that if we can just unlock the secret code, everything will go back to the way it was. Often, weContinue reading “After Being Cheated On: When We’re Told to “Get Over It””
Category Archives: Abandonment
Why I’m Not Anti-Divorce (Even Though I Hate It)
Divorce was the last thing I ever wanted in my first marriage. Yet, in hindsight, I wish that my husband had asked for a divorce. Because a divorce would have far easier – and more honest – than what transpired. If he had asked for a divorce, I would have been gutted. There isContinue reading “Why I’m Not Anti-Divorce (Even Though I Hate It)”
16 Things I Wish I Knew On the Day My Husband Left Me
The text read, “I’m sorry to be such a coward leaving you this way, but I’m leaving you and leaving the state.” My world collapsed. I did too. Here’s what I wish I could tell that woman folded on the floor, trying to process those words from her husband – 1 – You willContinue reading “16 Things I Wish I Knew On the Day My Husband Left Me”
How Could They Move On So Quickly?
My ex-husband certainly wasted no time. He didn’t even bother filing for divorce before he married his second (I’m assuming here; there could have been others) wife. Among all of the myriad thoughts that crashed around my mind in the aftermath of the discovery, one kept popping back up to the surface, “How could heContinue reading “How Could They Move On So Quickly?”