I became conditioned to be afraid of the mail. And the ringing phone. Even email had the ability to send my stomach plummeting down towards my feet. Because each intrusion had the potential of bringing new information about my ex husband to light. In retrospect, the pattern was quite clear: Stage 1 - Status Quo … Continue reading When New Information Comes to Light
One of the most precious gifts I received during my divorce was the gift of safe spaces. I had my dear friend's kitchen floor, where I could cry and curse without judgment while surrounded by the comforting activities of normal family life. I had my team at work who seemed to know whether I needed … Continue reading A “Safe Space” With a Purpose
I was good at coming up with excuses. I must send him another email (even though he didn't respond to the first two) so that he knows the impact of what he's done and it might prompt him to apologize. I have to contact the police about his bigamy because it is a crime and … Continue reading Three Reasons NOT to Seek Closure
In response to my video, The Three Things I Hated to Hear During Divorce, one reader shared her pet-peeve phrase about adjusting to life after a break up - "It's your new normal." And even though that phrase didn't make my hair stand on end, I could understand her ire. After all, nothing about life … Continue reading After Divorce: Is This Your New Normal?