One of the most precious gifts I received during my divorce was the gift of safe spaces. I had my dear friend's kitchen floor, where I could cry and curse without judgment while surrounded by the comforting activities of normal family life. I had my team at work who seemed to know whether I needed … Continue reading A “Safe Space” With a Purpose
I was good at coming up with excuses. I must send him another email (even though he didn't respond to the first two) so that he knows the impact of what he's done and it might prompt him to apologize. I have to contact the police about his bigamy because it is a crime and … Continue reading Three Reasons NOT to Seek Closure
In response to my video, The Three Things I Hated to Hear During Divorce, one reader shared her pet-peeve phrase about adjusting to life after a break up - "It's your new normal." And even though that phrase didn't make my hair stand on end, I could understand her ire. After all, nothing about life … Continue reading After Divorce: Is This Your New Normal?
“Let me introduce you to the victim advocate,” offered the policeman who had arrested my husband the day before. I stopped short. That was the first time that word – victim – had ever been applied to me. I certainly felt victimized. My partner of sixteen years had just abandoned me with a text … Continue reading How NOT to Be a Victim (No Matter What Life Throws at You!)