It is completely normal to be plagued with negative thoughts during and after divorce. It's a challenging time where you're facing loss and uncertainty and your prior coping strategies may not be quite up to the task. Here are some actionable strategies that you can employ if you're struggling with any of these common negative … Continue reading Strategies to Override Negative Thoughts After Divorce
As a homework assignment for my recent girl's weekend, I was asked to read The Four Agreements. I was fully willing, but somewhat skeptical, since as the only child of a counselor, I was raised on a steady diet of self-help. I think I overdosed. After the first few pages, my skepticism was replaced with … Continue reading The Power in Applying “The Four Agreements” to Divorce
There are many words that feel amazing to receive: "I love you." "I'm proud of you." "You are amazing." "I appreciate you." There are times those are the words we need to hear. They let us know that we're seen, accepted, valued and cared for. These words are the valuable currency of relationships … Continue reading We’ll Get Through This Together
"What is the value of therapy?" the email continues, after the writer has detailed her struggles moving through divorce. Another message contains the statement, "I've been in therapy for years and I'm wondering if it's working." "How do I know if therapy is for me?" implores a man who has been blindsided by his wife's … Continue reading The Value of Therapy
I talked to everyone about my divorce. No, really. The abruptness and the shock of it all seemed to manifest itself in an overabundance of thoughts and an inability to keep them to myself. The clerk at the gas station learned why I trembled with anxiety every time I ran my debit card (because I … Continue reading Who Can I Talk to About My Divorce?