Who Can I Talk to About My Divorce?

divorce talk

I talked to everyone about my divorce. No, really. The abruptness and the shock of it all seemed to manifest itself in an overabundance of thoughts and an inability to keep them to myself. The clerk at the gas station learned why I trembled with anxiety every time I ran my debit card (because I … Continue reading Who Can I Talk to About My Divorce?

What Are You Fighting For?

The streets and public gathering areas were filled yesterday as people came together to speak out about gun violence in our schools. The messages -  both printed and spoken aloud - were powerful, imbued with the energy that only honest emotion can convey. Instead of quietly cowering behind desks in the case of an active … Continue reading What Are You Fighting For?

Marriage: Should I Stay or Should I Go?

marriage: should I stay or go

From time to time, I have people contact me with a description of their marriage or their thoughts about filing for divorce. After describing the situation, they often conclude with the following question: should I stay or should I go? I have yet to encounter an email which prompts me to answer that question directly … Continue reading Marriage: Should I Stay or Should I Go?

8 Years Ago Today

8 years ago today

There's something about the tangible signs of the passage of time that makes it all the more real. I had a precious visit with my dear friend and her daughter last Sunday. This was the friend who took me in during that awful year between the tsunami and the legal cessation of the marriage. And … Continue reading 8 Years Ago Today

Jumping to Conclusions

jumping to conclusions

Once we believe something, even if we leapt recklessly to that opinion, we then proceed to ignore that which doesn't support our conclusion.