Have you recently endured a breakup or divorce and you're wondering if going "no contact" with your ex is the right decision for you? Here's what to consider: There is a History of Manipulation or Abuse At its core, abuse is about power and control. Especially if your ex was gaslighting you or was … Continue reading Going “No Contact” – Signs That It’s Needed
As a homework assignment for my recent girl's weekend, I was asked to read The Four Agreements. I was fully willing, but somewhat skeptical, since as the only child of a counselor, I was raised on a steady diet of self-help. I think I overdosed. After the first few pages, my skepticism was replaced with … Continue reading The Power in Applying “The Four Agreements” to Divorce
Marriage is a big step. A significant commitment. To help ensure that you're making the right decision for you, make sure that you can answer "yes" to these ten questions before you say "yes" to marriage! 1 - Can you be alone? If you are afraid of being alone, how do you know that you're … Continue reading Don’t Get Married Before You Can Answer “Yes” to These Ten Questions!
I visited my local Starbucks the other day to enjoy some coffee and free Wi-Fi. I was engaged in relatively mindless grading, so I let my ears wander to the conversations around me. One in particular caught my attention, as it pertained to the seemingly endless numbers of my former students getting married. There was … Continue reading Don’t Forget to Plan Your Marriage (While You’re Busy Planning Your Wedding)
We all have seen that some people manage to make it through even the most horrific of divorces with their hearts and smiles intact, whereas others seem permanently withered by their experience. We all want to be a member of the first group and yet we often find ourselves unwitting members of the second. Why … Continue reading 10 Things People Who Thrive After Divorce DON’T Do!