When we feel it, it seems so clear – this must be love! Yet in hindsight, sometimes the glossy coating starts to chip away and we realize that those intense and very real feelings weren’t love, but actually something else. Is it love? Or, is it… Limerence The year was 1991. Even thoughContinue reading “Is It Love? 10 Things We Confuse For Love”
Category Archives: Healthy Relationships
After the Affair: How Much Should You Talk About It?
The affair has been uncovered. The decision has been made to try to save the relationship. There’s a constant tension though – the one who has been betrayed feels the need to talk about it all of the time (“I want you to understand the pain you have put me through”) and the one whoContinue reading “After the Affair: How Much Should You Talk About It?”
Why I’m Not Anti-Divorce (Even Though I Hate It)
Divorce was the last thing I ever wanted in my first marriage. Yet, in hindsight, I wish that my husband had asked for a divorce. Because a divorce would have far easier – and more honest – than what transpired. If he had asked for a divorce, I would have been gutted. There isContinue reading “Why I’m Not Anti-Divorce (Even Though I Hate It)”
Forcing the End: Cheating as an Exit Strategy
People cheat for a large variety of reasons. In many of those cases, the cheater wants the affair partner(s) and they still want the marriage, a sort of one-sided renegotiation of the wedding vows. Yet in other cases, what the cheater really wants is out of the marriage and the affair is simply a wayContinue reading “Forcing the End: Cheating as an Exit Strategy”