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Lessons From the End of a Marriage

A “How to Thrive” Guide After Divorce

Faulty Cheating Logic

I keep encountering people who believe the following: If a man cheats on his wife, then the marriage was sexless. If the marriage was sexless, then it was the wife’s fault. Therefore, if a man cheats on his wife, it was the wife’s fault. *I’m sticking with the male cheater and asexual wife here becauseContinue reading “Faulty Cheating Logic”

After the Affair: Unraveling the Excuses

Once caught, most partners who have been unfaithful begin to make excuses in a rather lame attempt to justify their actions. In fact, these excuses often begin even before the affair is uncovered. These are the same justifications that they often recite to the affair partner, to friends and to themselves (often to the pointContinue reading “After the Affair: Unraveling the Excuses”

The Three Stages of Utilizing Anger After Relationship Trauma

Anger is a natural reaction to relationship trauma. You feel angry that your needs were ignored and your boundaries crossed. You’re enraged that your voice was silenced and that you were not allowed to have input on what happened. The unfairness sparks fury as they seem unaffected and you’re struggling to survive. This anger hasContinue reading “The Three Stages of Utilizing Anger After Relationship Trauma”

After Divorce: It DOES Get Better

Just the other day, somebody contacted me who is in the early months of an unwanted divorce. After responding to the specifics of their situation, I ended with, “It DOES get better.” They responded, “Everybody keeps telling me that.”   This is one of those phrases that can seem like a pat response in theContinue reading “After Divorce: It DOES Get Better”

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