Why “Get Over It” is Misdirected We Wish We Could When we’ve been betrayed, we want nothing more than for the pain to go away. We try to bargain with it, under the desperate illusion that if we can just unlock the secret code, everything will go back to the way it was. Often, weContinue reading “After Being Cheated On: When We’re Told to “Get Over It””
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After the Affair: How Much Should You Talk About It?
The affair has been uncovered. The decision has been made to try to save the relationship. There’s a constant tension though – the one who has been betrayed feels the need to talk about it all of the time (“I want you to understand the pain you have put me through”) and the one whoContinue reading “After the Affair: How Much Should You Talk About It?”
It’s Not You, It’s Them: 10 Signs You’re NOT the Reason They Cheated
Even though our heads know we’re not the reason they cheated, sometimes our hearts can get confused. We wonder why we weren’t enough for them. We hear their words blaming us for making them vulnerable to an affair. And we even face accusations from others, accusing us of doing (or not doing) something that causedContinue reading “It’s Not You, It’s Them: 10 Signs You’re NOT the Reason They Cheated”
How to Ease the Torment of Infidelity
Finding out that your partner has cheated is a special kind of hell. From the incessant questions that plague your uneasy mind to the sense of rejection and unworthiness, an affair causes pain like no other. It was only later, once I had gained some perspective on that period in my own life, when IContinue reading “How to Ease the Torment of Infidelity”