I’m realizing that people are getting lost in my story. It’s a doozy. Here’s the crib sheet if you’re trying to keep up…
-I was with my ex husband for 16 years (married for 10).
-I received a surprise text on July 11, 2009 that he was leaving me and leaving the state (I was out of town visiting my dad at the time). I had no idea this was coming. He was loving and normal the entire time, up until hours before he sent that text.
-I then discovered, upon returning home to an empty house, that he had wiped accounts clean, taken out and maxed out a home equity note and had taken out additional credit. I was left with less than nothing.
-Then, the real shocker. Through an email I discovered that he married a woman 6 days after leaving me, thus committing felony bigamy.
-I had him arrested. I talked to his wife. She was as shocked as I was.
-The short answer on the legal system – he got away with everything. There is currently a felony warrant for him for the bigamy. In the divorce, he disappeared instead of fulfilling the terms. Yeah, I still get angry about that sometimes.
-I have had no contact with him since the text. He refused to return calls, emails, etc.
-I have no idea where he is or what he is up to. Once the divorce was final, I chose to focus on living my life rather than follow his.
-The first year, during the legal process, was rough. Very rough.
-But I’m not in that place anymore. I worked hard to heal and, through that, have found a desire to help others improve themselves as well, thus the writing and the wellness coaching.
-I lead a much more balanced life than I did before – more yoga and less working at all hours:)
in a new relationship and will be married in the fall of 2013 now in an awesome marriage with an amazing man. The end of a marriage does not mean the end of love.
My writing spans this entire journey. I talk about the pain and horror. I share the hope. And I speak about the lessons that I am still learning.