The Day the Marriage Died

Up until now, everything I have posted has been recently written, almost 3 years since the end of my marriage.  I recently went back and visited some of my earlier writings, drafted in the weeks and months after he left.  I’ve decided to share some of that, to expose the raw underbelly of divorce.  Please…

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Read the Rest of the Story

“After 15 years on the police force, this is still the story I tell people.” “Lisa’s story is so raw, so humbling and so inspiring. ” “One doesn’t have to have a troubled marriage, or a marriage on the brink, to be captivated by this book. I took away many insights that remain with me.…

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How to Accept the Apology You Never Received

In an ideal world, everyone that causes harm to another, either intentionally or unintentionally, would immediately offer up a genuine apology: accepting responsibility, acknowledging the pain, express empathy and remorse, immediately changing behavior and, if appropriate, making amends for the damage caused. But we know that rarely happens. And it never happens as quickly as…

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What Is a Tsunami Divorce?

What is a Tsunami Divorce? A tsunami divorce is one that completely blindsides a spouse, flattening him or her with a wave that was never spotted.  A tsunami divorce is characterized by a normal marriage and a normal life up until the moment of total and utter destruction.  The spouse that embodies the wave may…

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7 thoughts on “Choose to Be a Student of Life: Thriving After Divorce

    1. I feel the same and as such have issues with being emotionally committed …maybe i haven’t found the right one yet? Who knows??

  1. Not sure if this will find you but I was hoping to let you know, your words I stumbled across tonight were super impactful to me. You wrote, “Forgiveness isn’t a pardon. It acknowledges the wrongs and then wraps them in compassion and acceptance. Forgiveness is an inside job, quietly accepting the apology you never received.

    Forgiveness is a difficult road. But you’re worth it.

    I needed to read that tonight and felt very compelled to find the writer and thank them. Hope this finds you.

    1. Thank you for taking the time to reach out. I’m so glad the words resonated. I hope they help you find peace.

  2. I wake up so sad every morning scared not wanting this life alone. My ex left me for my good friend. We share children. It’s so hard. I’m worried I will never be happy again. It’s been one and a half years. My anxiety and sadness is terrible. I don’t know what to do.

    1. That is especially hard when there are kids involved and the other person was a friend. I am so sorry you’re having to deal with this.

      What have you tried or what are you currently trying to help with the sadness and anxiety?

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