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9 Years Ago Today

It’s been long enough now that it feels like an entirely other lifetime. I struggle to bring the image of my ex-husband to mind (not that I have any reason […]

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When You’re Not Ready to Hear the Message

“How could you not have known what was going on?” my friend gently implored after learning about my then-husband’s betrayals and deceptions. “I don’t know!” I lashed out, “I’m not […]

Peace Offering

My ex husband has visited me the past several nights. Not in person, thank goodness, but in my dreams. When I awoke from the first one, I found myself strangely […]

When New Information Comes to Light

I became conditioned to be afraid of the mail. And the ringing phone. Even email had the ability to send my stomach plummeting down towards my feet. Because each intrusion […]

Rewriting the End of a Relationship

The end of your relationship isn’t the end of your dreams or of your happiness. It just may be about discovery, renovation, and learning to let go. ____ When a […]

Divorce: Formulating Your Exit Strategy

Deciding to divorce is only the first step. Next, especially if you expect your partner to put up a fight, it’s critical to develop your exit strategy. Ensure Your Basic […]

Refuse to Be a Victim

“Let me introduce you to the victim advocate,” offered the policeman who had arrested my husband the day before.   I stopped short. That was the first time that word […]

Forgiving Yourself

I’ve done some dumb things.  Some things I’m not proud of. And some that I’m embarrassed about.   I’ve made bad decisions. Followed by worse ones. And held tightly to […]

Marriage is Not a Test

Marriage is not a test. I lived. I loved. I lost. But I didn’t fail. Society makes assumptions about those who are divorced. Maybe we lack the fortitude to persist […]

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