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Lessons From the End of a Marriage

A “How to Thrive” Guide After Divorce

After Being Cheated On: When We’re Told to “Get Over It”

Why “Get Over It” is Misdirected We Wish We Could When we’ve been betrayed, we want nothing more than for the pain to go away. We try to bargain with it, under the desperate illusion that if we can just unlock the secret code, everything will go back to the way it was. Often, weContinue reading “After Being Cheated On: When We’re Told to “Get Over It””

The 10 Worst Platitudes to Hear After Divorce or Infidelity

As soon as the divorce or infidelity is public, the platitudes begin to rain down from loved ones and strangers alike. They can feel so off-base and tone deaf in the moment, even when they’re coming from a place of care and concern. What makes these platitudes sting and what wisdom might we gleam fromContinue reading “The 10 Worst Platitudes to Hear After Divorce or Infidelity”

Why I’m Not Anti-Divorce (Even Though I Hate It)

Divorce was the last thing I ever wanted in my first marriage. Yet, in hindsight, I wish that my husband had asked for a divorce. Because a divorce would have far easier – and more honest –  than what transpired.   If he had asked for a divorce, I would have been gutted. There isContinue reading “Why I’m Not Anti-Divorce (Even Though I Hate It)”

Forcing the End: Cheating as an Exit Strategy

People cheat for a large variety of reasons. In many of those cases, the cheater wants the affair partner(s) and they still want the marriage, a sort of one-sided renegotiation of the wedding vows. Yet in other cases, what the cheater really wants is out of the marriage and the affair is simply a wayContinue reading “Forcing the End: Cheating as an Exit Strategy”

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