Growing Apart in Marriage

We were inseparable for the better part of ten years. We met at the age of four at a Mother's Day Out group at our church. I remember being drawn to her pigtails, her white-blond cornsilk hair reminded me of one of my dolls and stood in contrast to my much wilder and darker mane. … Continue reading Growing Apart in Marriage

The (Unspoken) Truth About Marriage

When asked about the state of their union, people often feel like they have to defer to one of two responses: "It's all good," or, "It's over." Yet the reality is that most marriages spend much of their time between these two extremes. Where some things are good, some areas are taut with tension and … Continue reading The (Unspoken) Truth About Marriage

Love Testing

Love testing. It's one of the reasons that teenagers are difficult to deal with. Before they take the leap out into the adult world, they want the security that comes from knowing that you love them unconditionally. Your words and prior actions are often not sufficient for these temperamental creatures. They want reassurances. They want … Continue reading Love Testing

An Open Letter to Those Who Have Been Ghosted by a Partner

I see you. I know that right now you're feeling insignificant and discarded. I see you standing there in utter shock, struggling to process how everything changed in an instant. The "before" and "after" alternately body slamming you with the brutal reality. I see you because I was you. I hear you. I know that … Continue reading An Open Letter to Those Who Have Been Ghosted by a Partner

Taking Responsibility: How to Tell When It’s Your Stuff to Own

It can be challenging to determine when something falls on somebody else's shoulders and when it it is ultimately your responsibility to bear. Here are four ways to tell if it's your stuff to own -   1 - A pattern keeps repeating. When I first started casually dating post-divorce, I had guys start to … Continue reading Taking Responsibility: How to Tell When It’s Your Stuff to Own