Divorce was the last thing I ever wanted in my first marriage. Yet, in hindsight, I wish that my husband had asked for a divorce. Because a divorce would have far easier – and more honest – than what transpired. If he had asked for a divorce, I would have been gutted. There isContinue reading “Why I’m Not Anti-Divorce (Even Though I Hate It)”
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Forcing the End: Cheating as an Exit Strategy
People cheat for a large variety of reasons. In many of those cases, the cheater wants the affair partner(s) and they still want the marriage, a sort of one-sided renegotiation of the wedding vows. Yet in other cases, what the cheater really wants is out of the marriage and the affair is simply a wayContinue reading “Forcing the End: Cheating as an Exit Strategy”
What is a Tsunami Divorce?
What is a Tsunami Divorce? A tsunami divorce is one that completely blindsides a spouse, flattening him or her with a wave that was never spotted. A tsunami divorce is characterized by a normal marriage and a normal life up until the moment of total and utter destruction. The spouse that embodies the wave mayContinue reading “What is a Tsunami Divorce?”
After the Affair: Unraveling the Excuses
Once caught, most partners who have been unfaithful begin to make excuses in a rather lame attempt to justify their actions. In fact, these excuses often begin even before the affair is uncovered. These are the same justifications that they often recite to the affair partner, to friends and to themselves (often to the pointContinue reading “After the Affair: Unraveling the Excuses”