Six Reasons Smart People Are Dumb in Love

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I've always considered myself a smart person. And so, when I was confronted with the harsh reality of how stupid I was in my first marriage, it was a tough reality to accept. How could I be SO dumb when it comes to love?   1 - Smart People Are Still Subject to the Addictive … Continue reading Six Reasons Smart People Are Dumb in Love

Signs You’re Holding On When It’s Time to Let Go

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Letting go is hard. Damned hard. I first learned this as a young child, exploring my grandmother's basement, packed to the ceiling with carefully labeled and organized items as though she was preparing to seek refuge from the apocalypse. Which, in many ways, she was. She lived through starvation and disaster on the Dakota prairie. … Continue reading Signs You’re Holding On When It’s Time to Let Go

Shame: The Silent Relationship Killer

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Is shame at the root of your relationship problems? In most discussions of the common relationship killers, the usual suspects are named: infidelity, finances, addiction, abuse, changes in external demands, or a growing distance between the partners. Yet, there is a silent relationship killer that often lurks underneath those commonly listed reasons and is a … Continue reading Shame: The Silent Relationship Killer

Important Factors to Consider Before Relocating for a Relationship

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Have you ever relocated for a relationship? I have. Twice. The first time, I followed my future-ex-husband from San Antonio to Atlanta. I left behind family, friends and school to move to unseen apartment in a city that I had never even visited. Even with all of the sacrifice, I never considered not making the … Continue reading Important Factors to Consider Before Relocating for a Relationship

How Do You Know When You’re Ready For a New Relationship After Divorce?

“You have to wait one month for each year you were married.” “It’s like riding a horse. The sooner you get back in the saddle, the better.” “After divorce, you must stay single for at least two years to truly find yourself.”   I heard it all after my husband left. Yet none of it … Continue reading How Do You Know When You’re Ready For a New Relationship After Divorce?