“Why can’t you fly?” the caterpillar’s partner screams at them. The caterpillar is confused. After all, their partner knew they couldn’t fly from the very beginning of the relationship. “Did you see Kelly’s wings? They’re so strong and beautiful. I wish you had wings like that,” the partner mentions to the caterpillar. The caterpillar curlsContinue reading “The Nature of Change”
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The Three Stages of Utilizing Anger After Relationship Trauma
Anger is a natural reaction to relationship trauma. You feel angry that your needs were ignored and your boundaries crossed. You’re enraged that your voice was silenced and that you were not allowed to have input on what happened. The unfairness sparks fury as they seem unaffected and you’re struggling to survive. This anger hasContinue reading “The Three Stages of Utilizing Anger After Relationship Trauma”
A Guidebook to Handling Your Emotions
We don’t come with emotion-handling software already installed. As young children, we were pure, unrestrained emotion. Any disappointment resulted in a red and tear-stained face and joy over the smallest delight would result in spontaneous and unselfconscious giggles. And then, over the years, we received guidance on how to handle our emotions. Some of usContinue reading “A Guidebook to Handling Your Emotions”
Feeling Alone in a Relationship
Many memories of my first marriage have faded over time. But there are some that are still as sharp and pointed as the day they occurred. This is one of those. We sat in the 4th row in the left section of the movie theater. I was in the aisle seat and he was nextContinue reading “Feeling Alone in a Relationship”