Three Questions to Ask Yourself to Extinguish Your Divorce Anger

The anger bubbled to the surface, blistering under the broiler that was the financial mess my first husband gifted me in the divorce. Every month, as I struggled to make payments towards debt that he had accrued, my body would respond with a vicious energy and my mind would rail against the unfairness of it … Continue reading Three Questions to Ask Yourself to Extinguish Your Divorce Anger

Are You Tired of Hearing, “It Will Be Okay”?

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"It will be okay" is sometimes a platitude, uttered in ignorance by people who have not ever tried on your shoes, much less walked in them. And that pat phrase, along with its twin, "You're never given more than you can handle," can spark ire in the one who is in the midst of the … Continue reading Are You Tired of Hearing, “It Will Be Okay”?

Escalation

I came home last night to images of the riots in Baltimore on the TV.  I wanted to turn around and walk out, so that I could pretend for just a little longer that we lived in a world where situations like this didn't occur on a regular basis. It's sad. Both sides - the … Continue reading Escalation

I Feel Angry

The journal I kept in those early months after he left is warped and torn. Not from age. But from the force of my pen. I wasn't angry. I was furious. Nothing about the situation was okay. Nothing was fair. And I wanted him to pay.     If you are fuming at the actions … Continue reading I Feel Angry

Releasing the Hook

It is so hard to let go of the "what ifs" the "I should haves" and the "he/she is a $#%@#." We know that progress is forward yet the rearview mirror often keeps our eyes off the road in front. If you're having trouble releasing the hook of the past, read this. I liked it … Continue reading Releasing the Hook