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When You’re Not Ready to Hear the Message

“How could you not have known what was going on?” my friend gently implored after learning about my then-husband’s betrayals and deceptions. “I don’t know!” I lashed out, “I’m not […]

Six Ways We Hurt the Ones We Love

My ex husband used to tell me, “I’ll never hurt you.” I knew it was bullshit. After all, the ones we love are also positioned to hurt us the most, […]

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The Cheater’s Playbook

My ex left behind a letter, typed and in duplicate, when he unexpectedly exited my life. That was followed a couple weeks later by a suicide (attempted) email, sent to […]

Refuse to Be a Victim

“Let me introduce you to the victim advocate,” offered the policeman who had arrested my husband the day before.   I stopped short. That was the first time that word […]

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I Was Married to a Con Man

I thought he loved me. It turned out that he was more con man than confidant.  If my husband had been Pinocchio, his nose would have been a giant redwood. […]

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How to Get Over Being Cheated On

“How do I get over being cheated on?” This phrase makes its way into my messages several times a week. And no matter how many times I read it, my […]

Love Testing

Love testing. It’s one of the reasons that teenagers are difficult to deal with. Before they take the leap out into the adult world, they want the security that comes […]

Understanding Projection

My ex husband accused me of cheating. Never to my face, maybe because he feared my response or because on some level he knew the claim was baseless, but to […]

Three Reasons NOT to Seek Closure

I was good at coming up with excuses. I must send him another email (even though he didn’t respond to the first two) so that he knows the impact of […]

Understanding Triggers

  Want more ideas and support on dealing with triggers?   Facing Avoidance We avoid because we do not want to suffer. Yet suffering then becomes the background noise of […]

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