Five Strategies to Cope With a Lack of Motivation During Divorce

At first, it was a fight for survival that kept me going. That was soon replaced with a desire for justice. Then, some excitement for new possibilities provided a slight trickle of motivation to keep going. Eventually, all of that ran out. The well of inspiration to keep slogging through the debris of divorce dried … Continue reading Five Strategies to Cope With a Lack of Motivation During Divorce

Guest Post: Proof Divorce Can Make You Happier

When you're in the midst of it, divorce and happiness seem mutually exclusive. As though you're not only divorcing your spouse, but also splitting from your ability to ever smile again. This post gives hope that happiness can follow on the heels of divorce. That sometimes losing what we thought we wanted can sometimes be … Continue reading Guest Post: Proof Divorce Can Make You Happier

Podcast: Cool Things to Look Forward to After Your Divorce

I know. "Looking forward" and "divorce" seem to be oxymoronic when considered together. But I promise, they're not. Without a doubt, divorce sucks. It's traumatic, painful and life-altering. And it's also an opportunity. A crack in the wall that permits the light that allows you to see yourself clearly. A rip in the fabric that … Continue reading Podcast: Cool Things to Look Forward to After Your Divorce

How to Survive “Transplant Shock” After Divorce

It was a gift, a full and beautiful French hydrangea, with it's startling blue pom-poms of flowers perched above the simple white wrapping over the pot. I placed it on a counter, where it was out of the reach of the dogs, and for several weeks, I tended to it carefully with the enclosed fertilizer … Continue reading How to Survive “Transplant Shock” After Divorce

Slowly Turning Up the Heat: The Dark Side of the “New Normal”

A "new normal" can simply be a period of adjustment, of accepting what has changed and adapting to a new environment. This type of acclimatization may be uncomfortable, but it is ultimately relatively harmless and potentially even provides opportunity for growth. Learn more about the "new normal" after divorce. But that's not always the case. … Continue reading Slowly Turning Up the Heat: The Dark Side of the “New Normal”