The Cheater’s Playbook

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My ex left behind a letter, typed and in duplicate, when he unexpectedly exited my life. That was followed a couple weeks later by a suicide (attempted) email, sent to both his other wife and my mother. Since I had no other explanations, I poured over those words for months, looking for answers. His words … Continue reading The Cheater’s Playbook

Cheater Aversion Syndrome

One rarely-discussed side effect of being cheated on is the vicersal reaction that occurs when you witness infidelity secondhand, even when it only involves strangers. The symptoms can be severe and may include any or all of the following: a sense of disgust and even nausea a feeling of panic or needing to leave the … Continue reading Cheater Aversion Syndrome

Six Reasons Smart People Are Dumb in Love

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I've always considered myself a smart person. And so, when I was confronted with the harsh reality of how stupid I was in my first marriage, it was a tough reality to accept. How could I be SO dumb when it comes to love?   1 - Smart People Are Still Subject to the Addictive … Continue reading Six Reasons Smart People Are Dumb in Love

Classification of Infidelity

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In a recent piece on The Huffington Post, Dr. Mark Banschick describes four outcomes after a cheater is caught or decides to come clean:1) the cheater can make amends and the marriage continues, 2)the cheater can make amends and the marriage ends, 3)the cheated upon can choose to end the marriage or 4)the cheater can … Continue reading Classification of Infidelity