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The Cheater’s Playbook

My ex left behind a letter, typed and in duplicate, when he unexpectedly exited my life. That was followed a couple weeks later by a suicide (attempted) email, sent to […]

Cheater Aversion Syndrome

One rarely-discussed side effect of being cheated on is the vicersal reaction that occurs when you witness infidelity secondhand, even when it only involves strangers. The symptoms can be severe […]

Forgiving Yourself

I’ve done some dumb things.  Some things I’m not proud of. And some that I’m embarrassed about.   I’ve made bad decisions. Followed by worse ones. And held tightly to […]

Past, Meet Present

Well, that was weird. The letter was on the top of the stack in the mailbox. It was a thick envelope, formal looking. Through the window, I read my old […]

The Pitch-Black Room

Heartbreak is a pitch-black room. At first, you’re disoriented. Confused. How did the familiar world become replaced by this sarcophagus of grief? There are no windows. No doors. Only darkness. […]

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I Was Married to a Con Man

I thought he loved me. It turned out that he was more con man than confidant.  If my husband had been Pinocchio, his nose would have been a giant redwood. […]

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How to Get Over Being Cheated On

“How do I get over being cheated on?” This phrase makes its way into my messages several times a week. And no matter how many times I read it, my […]

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PTSD After Divorce

Can you develop PTSD after divorce? When my husband left, I trembled for a year. That’s not just some figurative language used to convey emotion; I literally shook. For a […]

Understanding Projection

My ex husband accused me of cheating. Never to my face, maybe because he feared my response or because on some level he knew the claim was baseless, but to […]

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Do You Suspect Your Partner is Cheating?

Do you suspect your partner is cheating?   I laughed it off at the time. My then-husband had recently become enamored with a particular style of Calvin Klein boxer briefs […]

Understanding Triggers

  Want more ideas and support on dealing with triggers?   Facing Avoidance We avoid because we do not want to suffer. Yet suffering then becomes the background noise of […]

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