Understanding Financial Abuse

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When I first realized that I had been a victim of financial abuse at the hands of my husband, my first reaction was fear. How in the world would I be able to survive, much less rebuild, with the accounts bled dry and the debt growing by the day? That was followed by anger. How … Continue reading Understanding Financial Abuse

The Cheater’s Playbook


My ex left behind a letter, typed and in duplicate, when he unexpectedly exited my life. That was followed a couple weeks later by a suicide (attempted) email, sent to both his other wife and my mother. Since I had no other explanations, I poured over those words for months, looking for answers. His words … Continue reading The Cheater’s Playbook

10 Ways to Make Online Dating Suck a Little Less

Online dating can be awesome - you have a huge pool of potential dates to select from, you are able to screen for basic compatibility ahead of time and you can "meet" people while you're on the sofa in your sweats. But online dating has its downsides. The sheer number of people available can be … Continue reading 10 Ways to Make Online Dating Suck a Little Less

Rewriting the End of a Relationship

The end of your relationship isn’t the end of your dreams or of your happiness. It just may be about discovery, renovation, and learning to let go. ____ When a relationship ends, it is natural to focus on what is lost, to fully submerge in the heartache and mourn the departed. It is all too … Continue reading Rewriting the End of a Relationship

Refuse to Be a Victim

“Let me introduce you to the victim advocate,” offered the policeman who had arrested my husband the day before.   I stopped short. That was the first time that word – victim – had ever been applied to me. I certainly felt victimized. My partner of sixteen years had just abandoned me with a text … Continue reading Refuse to Be a Victim