Post-divorce relationships are often where the fears of experiencing heartbreak again collide with the hope and heady infatuation of early attachment. These opposing emotional forces, along with any lingering unresolved divorce issues, present certain common challenges in relationships entered into after one or both parties experienced divorce. You meet the right person at the … Continue reading Common Challenges in Post-Divorce Relationships
I see you. I know that right now you're feeling insignificant and discarded. I see you standing there in utter shock, struggling to process how everything changed in an instant. The "before" and "after" alternately body slamming you with the brutal reality. I see you because I was you. I hear you. I know that … Continue reading An Open Letter to Those Who Have Been Ghosted by a Partner
It can be challenging to determine when something falls on somebody else's shoulders and when it it is ultimately your responsibility to bear. Here are four ways to tell if it's your stuff to own - 1 - A pattern keeps repeating. When I first started casually dating post-divorce, I had guys start to … Continue reading Taking Responsibility: How to Tell When It’s Your Stuff to Own
In some ways, I skipped my twenties. Most teenagers were rapid cycling through partners, trying on and discarding potential pairings like jeans in a dressing room. I had been committed to my then-boyfriend since the age of sixteen. While my classmates were spending weekends getting wasted at frat parties, I was spending the days running … Continue reading Marriage and the Fear of Missing Out
My ex-husband certainly wasted no time. He didn't even bother filing for divorce before he married his second (I'm assuming here; there could have been others) wife. Among all of the myriad thoughts that crashed around my mind in the aftermath of the discovery, one kept popping back up to the surface, "How could he … Continue reading How Could They Move On So Quickly?