How We Act When We’re Afraid of Losing Someone

I remember that day vividly. My then-husband was in Brazil, supposedly on a work trip. I was at home and unable to reach him when he failed to return to Atlanta at the anticipated time. As the panic rose, I alternated between frantically looking for information on the internet (Was there a plane crash? A … Continue reading How We Act When We’re Afraid of Losing Someone

The Life You Had is Gone

"The life you had is gone." I would tell myself as a lament and in an attempt to force acceptance. "You now have the opportunity to create a new life." I would continue, in a hope that optimism also operated on the "fake it until you make it" principle. "You can now build a life … Continue reading The Life You Had is Gone

Taking Responsibility: How to Tell When It’s Your Stuff to Own

It can be challenging to determine when something falls on somebody else's shoulders and when it it is ultimately your responsibility to bear. Here are four ways to tell if it's your stuff to own -   1 - A pattern keeps repeating. When I first started casually dating post-divorce, I had guys start to … Continue reading Taking Responsibility: How to Tell When It’s Your Stuff to Own

8 Things That Cannot Wait Until Tomorrow

I used to promise myself that I would have fun as soon as the weekend arrived. And then, I would push it off until the summer. I even let it get to the point where I resigned myself to more work and little play until retirement. The timing was never quite right to let up … Continue reading 8 Things That Cannot Wait Until Tomorrow

Marriage and the Fear of Missing Out

In some ways, I skipped my twenties. Most teenagers were rapid cycling through partners, trying on and discarding potential pairings like jeans in a dressing room. I had been committed to my then-boyfriend since the age of sixteen. While my classmates were spending weekends getting wasted at frat parties, I was spending the days running … Continue reading Marriage and the Fear of Missing Out