Restoration after a sudden trauma is not easy, but it is possible. In fact, you can even learn how to surf your tsunami, moving through it with skill and grace. Many of us will face a personal tsunami at some point in our lives. We will be felled by a great wave bringing withContinue reading “How to Surf a Tsunami”
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Exercises in Vulnerability
After divorce, we often enter a protective state, curled inward and walled off to the outside world. And without practice, we soon forget the critical skill of being able to be fully seen by another. And so that which was advantageous at first, eventually becomes limiting as new relationships cannot fully form when you areContinue reading “Exercises in Vulnerability”
Should You Believe Your Triggers?
I could feel it washing over me like a great wave trying to pull me under, both blinding me and choking me. My body went into full-on fight or flight mode, any rational thinking put on hold until the emergency passed. What was the emergency, you ask? My now-husband mentioned wanting to build a homeContinue reading “Should You Believe Your Triggers?”
The Importance of Feeling Safe in a Relationship
When you don’t feel safe in a relationship, your focus shifts from connection to protection. Instead of turning towards your partner, you’re turning inward or turning away in an attempt to avoid a sense of increasing danger. And relationship safety is often misunderstood. We tend to oversimplify the state; believing that as long as physicalContinue reading “The Importance of Feeling Safe in a Relationship”