Understanding Triggers

https://youtu.be/rjtlE2sZHTY   Want more ideas and support on dealing with triggers?   Facing Avoidance We avoid because we do not want to suffer. Yet suffering then becomes the background noise of our lives.   Learning to Trust Again: How to Deal With the Triggers There are times when the triggers are activated because of a … Continue reading Understanding Triggers

I Am…

I Am... Before you read any further, please pause for just a moment and allow your mind to complete that thought. Make a note of the word that rises to the surface. _________________________________________   In a recent yoga class, the instructor asked for us to silently completely the sentence, "I am..." The first word to … Continue reading I Am…

How NOT to Be a Victim (No Matter What Life Throws at You!)

“Let me introduce you to the victim advocate,” offered the policeman who had arrested my husband the day before.   I stopped short. That was the first time that word – victim – had ever been applied to me. I certainly felt victimized. My partner of sixteen years had just abandoned me with a text … Continue reading How NOT to Be a Victim (No Matter What Life Throws at You!)

The Unintended Consequences of Overreacting

One of the characteristics of a good marriage is that it is a safe space for both parties. Ideally, it becomes the sanctuary where you can take off your armor and feel comfortable wearing only your thin and vulnerable skin. It's the place where you don't have to pretend, where you can say what you … Continue reading The Unintended Consequences of Overreacting

Finding Your Strength Through Your Victim Impact Statement

At the gym yesterday, there was a man near me who was using his headset to have a phone conversation. Hearing the one-sided discussion about inane business matters made me irrationally angry. I kept trying to tune him out, to let the music and other voices drown out his, but my attention kept being drawn … Continue reading Finding Your Strength Through Your Victim Impact Statement