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Lessons From the End of a Marriage

A “How to Thrive” Guide After Divorce

Exercises in Vulnerability

After divorce, we often enter a protective state, curled inward and walled off to the outside world. And without practice, we soon forget the critical skill of being able to be fully seen by another. And so that which was advantageous at first, eventually becomes limiting as new relationships cannot fully form when you areContinue reading “Exercises in Vulnerability”

Are You Setting Healthy Boundaries or Hiding Behind Walls?

I thought I was setting boundaries. But in reality I was also building walls. It’s easy to do. To get so carried away with a line in the sand that it becomes the beginning of a foundation of a fortress. A stronghold intended to keep you safe. But that really holds you prisoner. Do youContinue reading “Are You Setting Healthy Boundaries or Hiding Behind Walls?”

Vulnerable

I’ve been feeling very vulnerable lately. Why? Who knows, but it doesn’t really matter, does it? What matters is that I need to learn to be here when my body is screaming for to hide and bury my head beneath the covers and my mind is begging for to re-erect the barriers that once surroundedContinue reading “Vulnerable”

Fear in the Driver’s Seat

When tragedies happen, we seek understanding. We want to diagnose and cure. We often try to control our surroundings and the actions of others. We want to feel safe. It’s a basic need. That desire for security is so primal, so strong, that it can cause us to behave irrationally. I experienced this myself inContinue reading “Fear in the Driver’s Seat”

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