After divorce, we often enter a protective state, curled inward and walled off to the outside world. And without practice, we soon forget the critical skill of being able to be fully seen by another. And so that which was advantageous at first, eventually becomes limiting as new relationships cannot fully form when you areContinue reading “Exercises in Vulnerability”
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The Masks We Wear
I read this response to Robin Williams’ death this morning and it struck a nerve. The author, also in the comedy business, discloses the dark underbelly that is often present beneath the laughs. He describes how childhood trauma or a sense of unworthiness leads to the development of an alter ago – a front manContinue reading “The Masks We Wear”
Passionate Protection
One of the most common complaints in a relationship that has gone the distance is the lack of excitement. Of passion. The spark fades and is replaced by a sense of comfort. Of predictability. It’s natural to look for stability in our relationships. We want to feel safe. We want to limit that oh-so-scary feelingContinue reading “Passionate Protection”
Beneath the Uniform
Last Sunday found me curled up on the sofa next to Brock, my trusty laptop in my hands, watching the Braves lose to Detroit while I Googled, “Naked baseball players.” Perhaps an explanation is needed here. I didn’t really want to see naked baseball players; I was looking for baseball players in their underwear. StayContinue reading “Beneath the Uniform”