7 Reasons People Withdraw in Relationships

We’ve all felt it. That certain chill in the air. The posture slightly too rigid and closed off. The tone that is just a little too clipped. The words may be right, but something is off. A disconnection. It’s like the plug that charges the relationship is only partly plugged in. It happens in everyContinue reading “7 Reasons People Withdraw in Relationships”

What Do You Owe Your Spouse?

A reader emailed me, describing his unhappiness in his marriage. He asked if he owed it to his wife to stay in the relationship. My answer? No. Staying in a relationship solely out of a sense of obligation is a breeding ground for resentment and contempt. The marriage may last, but not in a formContinue reading “What Do You Owe Your Spouse?”

Should You Divorce? 12 Questions to Consider

I’m often thankful that my marriage ended via text. I never had to make the gut-wrenching decision to inform my husband that I wanted out. I’ve never experienced endless days and nights weighing the pros and cons of divorce and anticipating its impact on my life. Even though I never thought about divorce prior toContinue reading “Should You Divorce? 12 Questions to Consider”

Passionate Protection

One of the most common complaints in a relationship that has gone the distance is the lack of excitement. Of passion. The spark fades and is replaced by a sense of comfort. Of predictability. It’s natural to look for stability in our relationships. We want to feel safe. We want to limit that oh-so-scary feelingContinue reading “Passionate Protection”