A Tale of Two Marriages

Today is our 6th wedding anniversary. That number has some meat to it. It feels substantial. Like we’re past the appetizer and into the main meal. For some reason, I’ve been particularly reflective this year, looking at this marriage and my first one from the perspective of today. I don’t remember my 6th anniversary inContinue reading “A Tale of Two Marriages”

Putting the Lessons Into Play

My husband discussed some hard stuff with me the other day. I’m proud of him for his self-awareness and courage and I’m also proud of me. Because my response, both in moment and in the days after, truly reveals how much I’ve grown since my first marriage.   I didn’t overreact, so I could beContinue reading “Putting the Lessons Into Play”

Progress and Room to Grow

Because of the nature of my first marriage (conflict-less because of a deadly combination of his tendency to lie about everything and my inclination to avoid anything too anxiety-provoking) and the way that it ended (suddenly and without warning), I have struggled at times with my now-husband. In the beginning, I alternated between being totallyContinue reading “Progress and Room to Grow”

Why Marriage Can Be Better the Second Time Around

I wrote this piece almost five years ago, just before I said “I do” for the second time. It has definitely been one of the better decisions I have ever made.     I am as familiar with the statistics as anyone — two-thirds of second marriages are expected to end in divorce. There areContinue reading “Why Marriage Can Be Better the Second Time Around”