The Love You Find When You Struggle to Love Yourself

We've all heard it so much that it has become trite - "You have to love yourself before someone else can love you." There's truth in that statement because when we look for love outside of ourselves before we've found it within, we're likely to end up in one of the following relationships: Accepting Mistreatment … Continue reading The Love You Find When You Struggle to Love Yourself

Six Ways We Hurt the Ones We Love

My ex husband used to tell me, "I'll never hurt you." I knew it was bullshit. After all, the ones we love are also positioned to hurt us the most, even when it's unintentional. Yet even though I knew his statement was wrong, I chose to believe him. Because I wanted it to be true. … Continue reading Six Ways We Hurt the Ones We Love

What Are Boundaries in Personal Relationships?

Parenting can help us learn about boundaries. Imagine a family with a young child. In this household, the rule is, "No cookies until after dinner." The child, as children do, continually tests this rule. "Maybe if I scream loudly enough, I'll get that cookie", they think. They push and poke to see what they can … Continue reading What Are Boundaries in Personal Relationships?

Six Reasons Smart People Are Dumb in Love

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I've always considered myself a smart person. And so, when I was confronted with the harsh reality of how stupid I was in my first marriage, it was a tough reality to accept. How could I be SO dumb when it comes to love?   1 - Smart People Are Still Subject to the Addictive … Continue reading Six Reasons Smart People Are Dumb in Love

The (Unspoken) Truth About Marriage

When asked about the state of their union, people often feel like they have to defer to one of two responses: "It's all good," or, "It's over." Yet the reality is that most marriages spend much of their time between these two extremes. Where some things are good, some areas are taut with tension and … Continue reading The (Unspoken) Truth About Marriage