As soon as the divorce or infidelity is public, the platitudes begin to rain down from loved ones and strangers alike. They can feel so off-base and tone deaf in the moment, even when they’re coming from a place of care and concern. What makes these platitudes sting and what wisdom might we gleam fromContinue reading “The 10 Worst Platitudes to Hear After Divorce or Infidelity”
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How to Ease the Torment of Infidelity
Finding out that your partner has cheated is a special kind of hell. From the incessant questions that plague your uneasy mind to the sense of rejection and unworthiness, an affair causes pain like no other. It was only later, once I had gained some perspective on that period in my own life, when IContinue reading “How to Ease the Torment of Infidelity”
What is a Tsunami Divorce?
What is a Tsunami Divorce? A tsunami divorce is one that completely blindsides a spouse, flattening him or her with a wave that was never spotted. A tsunami divorce is characterized by a normal marriage and a normal life up until the moment of total and utter destruction. The spouse that embodies the wave mayContinue reading “What is a Tsunami Divorce?”
After Being Cheated On: Distinguishing Between Fears and Warnings
“I never want to go through that again,” I think we all say after being cheated on once we’re through the initial whitewater of the discovery that bashes us upon the rocks. We examine our memories for the missed clues about the affair and we scan the horizon carefully, looking for signs of another impendingContinue reading “After Being Cheated On: Distinguishing Between Fears and Warnings”