What is a Tsunami Divorce?

What is a Tsunami Divorce? A tsunami divorce is one that completely blindsides a spouse, flattening him or her with a wave that was never spotted.  A tsunami divorce is characterized by a normal marriage and a normal life up until the moment of total and utter destruction.  The spouse that embodies the wave may … Continue reading What is a Tsunami Divorce?

The Day the Marriage Died

Up until now, everything I have posted has been recently written, almost 3 years since the end of my marriage.  I recently went back and visited some of my earlier writings, drafted in the weeks and months after he left.  I've decided to share some of that, to expose the raw underbelly of divorce.  Please … Continue reading The Day the Marriage Died

I’ve Buried the Hatchet, but I’ve Marked its Location

Forgiveness is such a loaded word. It requires an acceptance of someone's actions.  Actions that may be horrific, born from unknown motivations. Forgiveness was on my mind soon after I received the text that ended my marriage.  According to the platitudes I had always heard, I needed to forgive him.  It was the right thing … Continue reading I’ve Buried the Hatchet, but I’ve Marked its Location

Marital Treason

Caution: Rant ahead.  Proceed with care. There is so much about the legal process of divorce that is just not fair.  I'm feeling that very acutely right now, as I received an email from someone in my life who is now in the same no-win property situation I found myself in.  In both cases, the … Continue reading Marital Treason

Clean Up, Aisle 5

I received a notice in the mail yesterday that I have to report to court to settle one of the financial messes that my ex left behind. I have known that this was coming, but that does not make its arrival any easier. I'm angry. Angry that he continues to dodge his responsibilities while I, … Continue reading Clean Up, Aisle 5