When asked about the state of their union, people often feel like they have to defer to one of two responses: "It's all good," or, "It's over." Yet the reality is that most marriages spend much of their time between these two extremes. Where some things are good, some areas are taut with tension and … Continue reading The (Unspoken) Truth About Marriage
I see you. I know that right now you're feeling insignificant and discarded. I see you standing there in utter shock, struggling to process how everything changed in an instant. The "before" and "after" alternately body slamming you with the brutal reality. I see you because I was you. I hear you. I know that … Continue reading An Open Letter to Those Who Have Been Ghosted by a Partner
So you've come to realize that you're unhappy in your marriage. Perhaps you've noticed that you look forward to the times when your spouse is out of the home. Maybe you're feeling increasingly stifled or frustrated with your life and you're experiencing a driving need to do something different. Or your spouse has begun to … Continue reading What NOT to Do If You’re Unhappy in Your Marriage
One of the more infuriating responses I've received when others have heard my synopsis of my ex-husband's actions that led to the divorce is, "Well, you know how it is. There's your side, his side and then, somewhere in between them, there's the truth." After I swallow my scream, I try to respond with a … Continue reading My Side, His Side and … the Truth?
If I'm honest with myself, I entered into my first marriage with many of these misconceptions. These beliefs made recognizing and admitting to any cracks in the marriage a proposition too scary to face because any faults would threaten my assumptions. And I'm not alone in these inflated expectations of marriage. Over time, matrimony has … Continue reading 16 Widespread Misconceptions About Marriage