My Side, His Side and … the Truth?

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One of the more infuriating responses I've received when others have heard my synopsis of my ex-husband's actions that led to the divorce is, "Well, you know how it is. There's your side, his side and then, somewhere in between them, there's the truth." After I swallow my scream, I try to respond with a … Continue reading My Side, His Side and … the Truth?

Seven Strategies a Covert Abuser Uses to Create Convincing Lies

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Unless you've been there, you simply cannot understand how well a covert abuser can lie. The stories are so cunningly crafted and so expertly delivered that even the professionals can be fooled. It's one of the harder - and more frustrating - parts of emerging from this type of relationship, as you feel like nobody … Continue reading Seven Strategies a Covert Abuser Uses to Create Convincing Lies

Speaking Out: Why Hiding Your Struggles Makes it Worse

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At this point, the only real regret I have about my first marriage was that I didn't know. Not about the financial and sexual infidelity (although it would have been nice to have had some insider information!). And not even about his plan to leave and secure another wife. I regret that I didn't know … Continue reading Speaking Out: Why Hiding Your Struggles Makes it Worse

Identity Theft

My stomach dropped as I read the words on the screen: We take your privacy and your security seriously. In order to process your request, you must first complete the following identity quiz. The last time I had to take an identity quiz, I failed. It was just over three years ago and I was … Continue reading Identity Theft

Telling Stories: The Lesson in the Brian Williams’ Scandal

I never watch television news. So I had no idea who Brian Williams was until the news about his false claims about his time in Iraq. All of the tidbits I read online or heard on the radio took the position that he intentionally and willfully fabricated these stories. Until I came across this one. … Continue reading Telling Stories: The Lesson in the Brian Williams’ Scandal