Why “Get Over It” is Misdirected We Wish We Could When we’ve been betrayed, we want nothing more than for the pain to go away. We try to bargain with it, under the desperate illusion that if we can just unlock the secret code, everything will go back to the way it was. Often, weContinue reading “After Being Cheated On: When We’re Told to “Get Over It””
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6 Reasons People Lie in Relationships
People lie in relationships for myriad reasons, some of which are more egregious than others. By understanding the motivation behind their mistruths, you have some insight into their thought process and a sense of the likelihood that they will continue their deceptions. 6 Reasons People Lie in Relationships: 1 – They Are Ashamed ofContinue reading “6 Reasons People Lie in Relationships”
The 5 Types of Apologies Cheaters Use
They’re been caught cheating. Or, they decided to come clean about the affair. Some of the first words out of their mouth are, “I’m sorry.“ You want desperately to believe those words, to believe that they feel true remorse for the pain they have caused you. Yet, past event shave also proven to you thatContinue reading “The 5 Types of Apologies Cheaters Use”
Why I’m Not Anti-Divorce (Even Though I Hate It)
Divorce was the last thing I ever wanted in my first marriage. Yet, in hindsight, I wish that my husband had asked for a divorce. Because a divorce would have far easier – and more honest – than what transpired. If he had asked for a divorce, I would have been gutted. There isContinue reading “Why I’m Not Anti-Divorce (Even Though I Hate It)”