Going “No Contact” – Signs That It’s Needed

Have you recently endured a breakup or divorce and you're wondering if going "no contact" with your ex is the right decision for you? Here's what to consider:   There is a History of Manipulation or Abuse At its core, abuse is about power and control. Especially if your ex was gaslighting you or was … Continue reading Going “No Contact” – Signs That It’s Needed

Marriage: Should I Stay or Should I Go?

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From time to time, I have people contact me with a description of their marriage or their thoughts about filing for divorce. After describing the situation, they often conclude with the following question: should I stay or should I go? I have yet to encounter an email which prompts me to answer that question directly … Continue reading Marriage: Should I Stay or Should I Go?

What Are Your Marriage Deal Breakers?

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Brock asked me once if I would have given my first marriage a chance if my ex had come to me instead of disappearing. "It depends," was my response. By the time the end was imminent, there had been so many lies and so much betrayal that I don't think we could have moved beyond … Continue reading What Are Your Marriage Deal Breakers?

Is Divorce Your Only Option?

When I first read this piece by Matt on why he declined to participate in Huffington Post's collection on when divorce is the only option, my knee-jerk response was that sometimes divorce is the only option. When I filed for divorce, my husband was MIA, married to another woman and still actively funneling my credit … Continue reading Is Divorce Your Only Option?

When To Throw in the Towel on Your Relationship

In my opinion, one of the best parts of being abandoned is never having to wrestle with the thought of, "Should I stay or should I go?" Or even, "Will he or she stay?" There is no decision to be made about throwing in the towel. Instead, one day, you blindly reach your arm out … Continue reading When To Throw in the Towel on Your Relationship