After divorce, we often enter a protective state, curled inward and walled off to the outside world. And without practice, we soon forget the critical skill of being able to be fully seen by another. And so that which was advantageous at first, eventually becomes limiting as new relationships cannot fully form when you areContinue reading “Exercises in Vulnerability”
Tag Archives: Emotion
A Guidebook to Handling Your Emotions
We don’t come with emotion-handling software already installed. As young children, we were pure, unrestrained emotion. Any disappointment resulted in a red and tear-stained face and joy over the smallest delight would result in spontaneous and unselfconscious giggles. And then, over the years, we received guidance on how to handle our emotions. Some of usContinue reading “A Guidebook to Handling Your Emotions”
Should You Believe Your Triggers?
I could feel it washing over me like a great wave trying to pull me under, both blinding me and choking me. My body went into full-on fight or flight mode, any rational thinking put on hold until the emergency passed. What was the emergency, you ask? My now-husband mentioned wanting to build a homeContinue reading “Should You Believe Your Triggers?”
Give Yourself Permission
We are often our own harshest critics. We berate ourselves for the same things we respond with compassion to in others. Instead of doing the best we can, we often “should” ourselves into shame and paralysis. So for today, practice being as kind to yourself as you are to others. For today, give yourselfContinue reading “Give Yourself Permission”