After divorce, we often enter a protective state, curled inward and walled off to the outside world. And without practice, we soon forget the critical skill of being able to be fully seen by another. And so that which was advantageous at first, eventually becomes limiting as new relationships cannot fully form when you areContinue reading “Exercises in Vulnerability”
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The Pitch-Black Room
Heartbreak is a pitch-black room. At first, you’re disoriented. Confused. How did the familiar world become replaced by this sarcophagus of grief? There are no windows. No doors. Only darkness. And you’re all alone. You can hear life as usual just outside your walls, but you are separated from the activity. The air feels funny.Continue reading “The Pitch-Black Room”
How to Steer Your Dreams
I remember feeling safe. Our bodies were pressed together, recesses and curves paired together as though from complementary molds. His smell was familiar, both comforting and intoxicating, bringing contentment with a whisper of passion. My eyes were closed as we began to kiss, slow caresses that were full of promise and affection. As our lipsContinue reading “How to Steer Your Dreams”
I Feel Sad
Are you feeling sad after divorce? Divorce is a death of a marriage. A death of the future. A death of your present. And, in some cases, a death of the past you thought you had. Like any death, there is an intense sense of loss. Of mourning. I remember feeling the aching void leftContinue reading “I Feel Sad”