Should You Believe Your Triggers?

I could feel it washing over me like a great wave trying to pull me under, both blinding me and choking me. My body went into full-on fight or flight mode, any rational thinking put on hold until the emergency passed. What was the emergency, you ask? My now-husband mentioned wanting to build a homeContinue reading “Should You Believe Your Triggers?”

Taking Responsibility: How to Tell When It’s Your Stuff to Own

It can be challenging to determine when something falls on somebody else’s shoulders and when it it is ultimately your responsibility to bear. Here are four ways to tell if it’s your stuff to own –   1 – A pattern keeps repeating. When I first started casually dating post-divorce, I had guys start toContinue reading “Taking Responsibility: How to Tell When It’s Your Stuff to Own”

Understanding Triggers

  Want more ideas and support on dealing with triggers?   Facing Avoidance We avoid because we do not want to suffer. Yet suffering then becomes the background noise of our lives.   Learning to Trust Again: How to Deal With the Triggers There are times when the triggers are activated because of a legitimateContinue reading “Understanding Triggers”

A Case of Mistaken Identity

My car turned yellow while I was at work today. As did the car next to it. And the one next to that. In fact, the entire parking lot looked like it had been handled by the grubby fingers of a kid after eating off-brand Cheetos. And all because trees are not subject to publicContinue reading “A Case of Mistaken Identity”