“How could you not have known what was going on?” my friend gently implored after learning about my then-husband’s betrayals and deceptions. “I don’t know!” I lashed out, “I’m not the one at fault at fault here. He lied. He did this to me. He destroyed everything.” The words were sharp in my mouth. MyContinue reading “When You’re Not Ready to Hear the Message”
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Taking Responsibility: How to Tell When It’s Your Stuff to Own
It can be challenging to determine when something falls on somebody else’s shoulders and when it it is ultimately your responsibility to bear. Here are four ways to tell if it’s your stuff to own – 1 – A pattern keeps repeating. When I first started casually dating post-divorce, I had guys start toContinue reading “Taking Responsibility: How to Tell When It’s Your Stuff to Own”
What If It Is Your Circus And They Are Your Monkeys?
Because sometimes it IS your circus… It’s war. And I’ve pulled out the big guns – poisonous plants, crushed oyster shells, a rake to remove mulch , metal landscape mesh and mousetraps hidden beneath overturned pots. Because this time, it is my circus and these are my monkeys. Errr…voles, actually. Although I think I’d ratherContinue reading “What If It Is Your Circus And They Are Your Monkeys?”
If I Had Known This One Thing, I Would Have Divorced Differently
When I first hired my attorney, I was pursuing a divorce through publication (not that I even knew what that was until I was left with a text message and a husband that then disappeared). At that time, mere days after the tsunami, I had no idea what happened and no evidence other than theContinue reading “If I Had Known This One Thing, I Would Have Divorced Differently”