If I Had Known This One Thing, I Would Have Divorced Differently

When I first hired my attorney, I was pursuing a divorce through publication (not that I even knew what that was until I was left with a text message and a husband that then disappeared). At that time, mere days after the tsunami, I had no idea what happened and no evidence other than theContinue reading “If I Had Known This One Thing, I Would Have Divorced Differently”

The Four Words That Are Holding You Back (And the Four Words to Say Instead)

It’s ingrained in all of us. Inevitably, when I motion for a student to quiet down, I hear the response, “It’s not my fault.” (Or its synonym, “It wasn’t me.”) It is a knee-jerk reaction to any pronouncement of culpability. And rather than grow out of it as we grow older, we begin to payContinue reading “The Four Words That Are Holding You Back (And the Four Words to Say Instead)”

The Blame Game

Why is it that some people (those who have never been divorced, or even married, I would suspect) are so quick to lay blame on the end of a marriage.  I mainly hear this when there is abandonment or infidelity involved; the expressed assumption is that the spouse on the receiving end must have somehowContinue reading “The Blame Game”