8 Years Ago Today

8 years ago today

There's something about the tangible signs of the passage of time that makes it all the more real. I had a precious visit with my dear friend and her daughter last Sunday. This was the friend who took me in during that awful year between the tsunami and the legal cessation of the marriage. And … Continue reading 8 Years Ago Today

5 Tips For Managing Your Pre-Divorce Anxiety

You've made the decision to divorce. Maybe you're ready for it to be over after months or years of trying to make it work, looking forward to closing this chapter so you can begin the next. Perhaps you've accepted that this is your best - or only - course of action and you just want … Continue reading 5 Tips For Managing Your Pre-Divorce Anxiety

I Needed Him to Face the Consequences, Yet I Was the One Who Paid

I entered the divorce process like a dizzy and blindfolded toddler attempting to swing at a candy-laden piñata. I had a singular focus, yet unable to see, I fumbled through it and frequently became disoriented even while I was obsessed with obtaining my desired outcome. One of the few regrets I have is in how I … Continue reading I Needed Him to Face the Consequences, Yet I Was the One Who Paid

If I Had Known This One Thing, I Would Have Divorced Differently

When I first hired my attorney, I was pursuing a divorce through publication (not that I even knew what that was until I was left with a text message and a husband that then disappeared). At that time, mere days after the tsunami, I had no idea what happened and no evidence other than the … Continue reading If I Had Known This One Thing, I Would Have Divorced Differently

Guest Post – Divorcing a Narcissist Is Tough

I'm often grateful that I didn't have children on my slog through the family courts. My experience was horrific, but at the end of the day, there were some battles I could elect not to find. At some point, I could choose to walk away. After all, it was simply money on the table. But … Continue reading Guest Post – Divorcing a Narcissist Is Tough