The Value of Therapy

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"What is the value of therapy?" the email continues, after the writer has detailed her struggles moving through divorce. Another message contains the statement, "I've been in therapy for years and I'm wondering if it's working." "How do I know if therapy is for me?" implores a man who has been blindsided by his wife's … Continue reading The Value of Therapy

Taking Responsibility: How to Tell When It’s Your Stuff to Own

It can be challenging to determine when something falls on somebody else's shoulders and when it it is ultimately your responsibility to bear. Here are four ways to tell if it's your stuff to own -   1 - A pattern keeps repeating. When I first started casually dating post-divorce, I had guys start to … Continue reading Taking Responsibility: How to Tell When It’s Your Stuff to Own

Jumping to Conclusions

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Once we believe something, even if we leapt recklessly to that opinion, we then proceed to ignore that which doesn't support our conclusion. 

Assuming Intent

The year was 1997. Accomplished chess player Garry Kasparov was again facing a unique opponent, the computer known as Deep Blue. When the computer made a move that appeared irrational to Garry, he grew agitated and visibly upset. Understanding that the computer was programmed to "see" all of the possible outcomes many moves into the future, … Continue reading Assuming Intent

9 Ways Comparison Steals Your Joy (And How to Take It Back)

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Comparison. We all do it. We see our friends' vacation pictures on Facebook and suddenly feel worse about our own travels. Instead of celebrating our promotion, we focus on how we still don't make as much as the guy down the street. We enjoy our home renovation until we enter a more upscale home, at … Continue reading 9 Ways Comparison Steals Your Joy (And How to Take It Back)