The Four Words That Are Holding You Back (And the Four Words to Say Instead)

It’s ingrained in all of us. Inevitably, when I motion for a student to quiet down, I hear the response, “It’s not my fault.” (Or its synonym, “It wasn’t me.”) It is a knee-jerk reaction to any pronouncement of culpability. And rather than grow out of it as we grow older, we begin to payContinue reading “The Four Words That Are Holding You Back (And the Four Words to Say Instead)”

It’s Not You, It’s Me

One of the unexpected gifts that I gained with a tsunami divorce is that I didn’t have my ex around to target. I mean, sure I blamed him, but that only took me so far and eventually I had to focus on what I could impact – myself. I’ve carried that perspective into my newContinue reading “It’s Not You, It’s Me”