I was in elementary school when my parents divorced and my dad moved out. I remember being confused - how could a family suddenly be not-a-family? I was sad - not only did I miss my dad, but I saw that mom was hurting. And I was ashamed, concerned that somehow my friends would judge … Continue reading 7 Vital Lessons Divorce Teaches Children
There’s a lot you know about how to divorce with kids. Yet there are some realities that still may surprise you. Are you aware of these five eye-opening truths?
Stephen King calls spite "methadone for the soul," a replacement preoccupation we partake of in order to avoid the real pain of suffering. And much like a drug, a feeling of ill will towards those who have harmed us is a challenging habit to quit. It's normal to want to strike back, to want those … Continue reading How to Move Forward When You Still Want Revenge
So according to those that monitor traditions, the first wedding anniversary is supposed to be marked with a gift of paper. So what do you do with the day once the anniversary has been marred by paper? Divorce papers, to be exact. Those unanniversaries are going to keep coming. So you may as well get … Continue reading How Do You Get Through Your Anniversary After Divorce?
I've written about why gaslighting is the worst. Here's just a snippet: It's horrifying when you realize that the person you love, you trust, has been slowly and intentionally lying and manipulating you. It's like that nightmare you had when you were 5 where Santa Claus suddenly turned into a monster. Only this monster is … Continue reading Five Empowering Ways to Recover From Gaslighting