Look Out For These “Red Flag” Phrases

I'd never do anything to hurt you. This is naive at best and a manipulative distraction at worst. In any meaningful relationship, the occasional hurt is unavoidable. ¬†Toes are carelessly stepped on, harsh words erupt before they're caught and actions are misconstrued to have an alternate meaning. Hurt happens. And it's what happens after that … Continue reading Look Out For These “Red Flag” Phrases

The Unintended Consequences of Overreacting

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The unintended consequences of overreacting... One of the characteristics of a good marriage is that it is a safe space for both parties. Ideally, it becomes the sanctuary where you can take off your armor and feel comfortable wearing only your thin and vulnerable skin. It's the place where you don't have to pretend, where … Continue reading The Unintended Consequences of Overreacting

Three Lies We All Tell Ourselves

"I Would Never Do That" "If you were in a survival situation, you would not only eat meat, you would crave it," declared my husband in a conversation about choices made in life-or-death circumstances. Intellectually, I knew he was right. The body's drive for survival easily overrides any normal aversion I have towards animal flesh. … Continue reading Three Lies We All Tell Ourselves

Virtual Reality

He noticed her as soon as her entered. An older woman, well dressed, standing at the counter watching the gemologist examine a rather large stone under magnification. As my husband completed his transaction, paying for the new battery and taking possession of his watch, he couldn't help but overhear the exchange between the woman and … Continue reading Virtual Reality

Character Assassination

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I didn't like reading how many of you relate to being gaslighted. It's one of those areas that I know for me is still tender. There is much un-probed because it hurts too much to counter often-good memories with the knowledge of the duplicity and lies. And I finally realized that the daunting task of … Continue reading Character Assassination