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Lessons From the End of a Marriage

A “How to Thrive” Guide After Divorce

I Reject Your Reality and Substitute My Own

In my ex husband’s mind, why tell the truth when you can invent it? Why yell when instead you can quietly manipulate through gaslighting? In all of the pain after my ex husband left, there is one pain that stands out as more acute than the rest. After being arrested for bigamy and bailing out ofContinue reading “I Reject Your Reality and Substitute My Own”

Labels

In the early months of the divorce, I was obsessed with labels. I needed to be able to classify everything, to make sense of the nonsensical.  It reminded me of a time when I was a kid.  My parents bought this little label maker that would print out stickers of what you typed.  I spentContinue reading “Labels”

Where Is He Now?

When I share my story, one of the most frequent questions I get is, “Where is he now?”  I don’t know the answer to that question. Here is what I do know. From the day he left in July of 2009 until the divorce in 2010, I kept tabs on him.  I had my ways.  Continue reading “Where Is He Now?”

How It Began

My own divorce story began in 2009 when I received a surprise text after 10 years of marriage that my husband was leaving.  That text was the last contact I ever had from him.  Over the next few weeks and months, I struggled to make sense of what happened.  It turned out that the realityContinue reading “How It Began”

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