My own divorce story began in 2009 when I received a surprise text after 10 years of marriage that my husband was leaving. That text was the last contact I ever had from him. Over the next few weeks and months, I struggled to make sense of what happened. It turned out that the reality was even stranger and more horrific than I could have ever imagined. I found evidence of years of lies and deception, found empty bank accounts and overfilled unknown credit cards, and I saw evidence of another woman. Further sleuthing uncovered the shocking revelation that he married this other woman 6 days after he left me, thus committing felony bigamy. I found myself catapulted into a world of police, lawyers, psychiatrists, and media, trying to find my bearings. One of the worst aspects of those early days was the feeling that he had stolen my voice my refusing to communicate with me. I will be silent no more.
My marriage began with vows, vows to love and cherish him. My marriage also ended with vows, vows made to myself. I promised to thrive despite the pain, I committed to working to find balance in my life, I vowed to move beyond anger and revenge, and I pledged to use my voice to help others find wellness after trauma.
I have learned many lessons from the end of my marriage, and I am still learning.
You can read my entire story in my book Lessons From the End of a Marriage, available on Amazon.