How to Rewrite Your Divorce Story

With personal life events, the facts matter less than your interpretation of them. I wish I had known that in the year following my own divorce. Instead, I chased down the facts like a terrier after a rat, convinced that as soon as I had assembled all the particulars and made sense of the information,Continue reading “How to Rewrite Your Divorce Story”

“I Want You” vs. “I Need You”

There’s nothing sexy about being needed. I feel it after a long day at work after hundreds of children have made their demands, becoming more task-monitor and cognition-manager than woman. Mothers describe feeling like little more than a milk-generating machine during those months when breastfeeding may be a constant. Bread-winners may start to feel moreContinue reading ““I Want You” vs. “I Need You””

I Reject Your Reality and Substitute My Own

In my ex husband’s mind, why tell the truth when you can invent it? Why yell when instead you can quietly manipulate through gaslighting? In all of the pain after my ex husband left, there is one pain that stands out as more acute than the rest. After being arrested for bigamy and bailing out ofContinue reading “I Reject Your Reality and Substitute My Own”

So the Wind Blows

The storm pummeling Atlanta today has been described already as “historic.” I’m not sure if that will be the case but the howling wind and pelting ice outside my window certainly sound as though they are harbingers of the winter apocalypse. I keep having flashbacks to the only other major ice storm I’ve been through. ItContinue reading “So the Wind Blows”