“I Want You” vs. “I Need You”

I want you I need you

There's nothing sexy about being needed. I feel it after a long day at work after hundreds of children have made their demands, becoming more task-monitor and cognition-manager than woman. Mothers describe feeling like little more than a milk-generating machine during those months when breastfeeding may be a constant. Bread-winners may start to feel more … Continue reading “I Want You” vs. “I Need You”

How to Rewrite Your Divorce Story

When divorce happens, it can leave you feeling like a failure. Powerless and adrift in your life. It's easy to internalize these feelings, to recite them to yourself as if they were gospel. But what might happen if you change your story? Take back your power? And rewrite your divorce? Learn the steps you need … Continue reading How to Rewrite Your Divorce Story

I Reject Your Reality and Substitute My Own

gaslighting

In my ex husband's mind, why tell the truth when you can invent it? Why yell when instead you can quietly manipulate through gaslighting? In all of the pain after my ex husband left, there is one pain that stands out as more acute than the rest. After being arrested for bigamy and bailing out of … Continue reading I Reject Your Reality and Substitute My Own

So the Wind Blows

The storm pummeling Atlanta today has been described already as "historic." I'm not sure if that will be the case but the howling wind and pelting ice outside my window certainly sound as though they are harbingers of the winter apocalypse. I keep having flashbacks to the only other major ice storm I've been through. It … Continue reading So the Wind Blows

We Are Women

  “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.” Marianne Williamson On the surface, it was a simple girl’s weekend at the beach. But much lies beneath the waves at the ocean in the form of great beauty and unexplored possibilities. On the surface, … Continue reading We Are Women