I used to judge. I’m not proud of it. But I used to judge those who stayed in abusive relationships. I criticized the victim for staying put while exclaiming that, were I ever to find myself in a similar situation, I would leave immediately. It always seemed so clear to me. So cut and dry.Continue reading “I Used to Judge”
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How NOT to Be a Victim
“Let me introduce you to the victim advocate,” offered the policeman who had arrested my husband the day before. I stopped short. That was the first time that word – victim – had ever been applied to me. I certainly felt victimized. My partner of sixteen years had just abandoned me with a text message,Continue reading “How NOT to Be a Victim”
Ownership
The Anti-Victim
Whenever we take Tiger to the dog park, I like to step back and observe the interactions of the dogs and the owners. On the best days, all are relaxed and a singular, calm and happy energy flows through the park. On other days, the energy is divisive rather than unifying, a sense of unbalanceContinue reading “The Anti-Victim”